Dealing with nonchalant relationships

One of my blog choices from this week was interesting because I was just going to wing it - and I kind of nearly did but eventually decided to read the sources so that I could tell you what not to do instead. You see I’m big on self help and self-care but I would be lying to you if I said that reading relationship based listing style blog articles continuously and in-a-row consistently, was good for your mental health and relationships. There are indeed helpful what-not-to-do’s and useful tips with scientific psychological backing in the advocating versions but overall I don’t want to be like them, I want to be different and hopefully through this blog today, you will see that how we regard ‘nonchalance’ can both be a hindrance and an assent but it is important to look at these signs as indications and areas for overall well-being and satisfaction:

1.Many of the articles I read about nonchalance in your most intimate relationships considered it in its many different forms. From reading and analysing some of these, I gathered that many view it as a red flag completely and others as something they are trying to manifest for themselves, for the benefit of their relationship. You see, we are all taught to not come off as extremely desperate when courting (‘chasing’) a love interest where women have adopted a more softer and lighter approach in this day and age, when it comes to trying to win over their crushes. Because of this, I would initially say that playing it cool at the start of a relationship is not a bad thing and could heed benefit as your partnership progresses. You see - calmness and coolness can help you to not overreact in an excessive emotional manner when facing love difficulties or problems in the world around you that has an inevitable and profound impact on your relationship at times. So as long as you aren’t masking your craziness for calmness that eventually causes your cover to slip in the wake of a relationship issue, nonchalance here can have a positive impact on resolution tactics.

2.On the topic of what is really true and what’s fake, I would also say that there is a difference between being/wanting to be a more laid back individual and simply not caring about others. If you genuinely are self-centered and avoid issues then this would undoubtedly impact many of your relationships, not just your most intimate ones. This is an area of concern that deviates from nonchalance being positive because it filters into issues with satisfaction and understanding of morals overall. Upon considering this, then, I would state that it is indeed wrong to not care at all about yourself and the important relationships around you. We then are forced to ask the question of whether nonchalance in such a dismissive form seeks to reinforce negative gender stereotypes where men are praised by society for not giving a damn about anything, even themselves and women are chastised for caring to much? And then, in the context of queer and same-sex relationships, where do these gendered roles lie?

These are just some areas of thought-provoking prose and I would love the opportunity to discuss more and more tips for healthy relationships and how to personally improve your overall sense of esteem and self-regard…But I have to stop here so that I don’t become like the very writers I criticised at the start of my blog. I want my site to be an open place for discussion and relatability, not isolation or restricted exclusively. That being said, however, feel free to sign up to my mailing list below and follow @ldxbootique on Instagram, to keep up to date with the more physical side of lifestyleaddxct. I will be making some announcements very soon and want to thank you all for supporting me, in the various ways that you do. I also hope that this blog sparked your interest and curiosity and provided you with a bit of support and guidance. Until next time…

-From K xx